We have emphasized that romance is needed commodity in marriages today, but love means far more than just the feelings expressed in romantic affections as important as they are. “We do not fall into love; rather we grow into love.” Love in marriage matures as a couple applies the principle of love in everyday life. Genuine love then, goes beyond the feelings of love and becomes a principle that must be put into action. We must not only expect to be treated with love and consideration.
Yet it is very difficult for most of us to consistently express our love in day in and day out. Few of us feel like being tender, thoughtful, considerate and helpful everyday of our lives because our feelings are easily altered by moods, food eaten, the weather, illness, the reaction of our mate toward us and a host of other variables. Since feelings are unstable, those who contend that love is primarily a feeling will make unstable lovers. They will proceed through life indulging in what feels good and pursuing “that old feeling” immortalized in song.
Of course, feeling constitutes a component of love. Love wouldn’t be very interesting or much fun if we didn’t have “that feeling”. Indeed, the first attraction between individuals rests primarily on feelings and a love relationship will hardly ensue unless love feelings surface.
However, in marriage, some of the early feelings of young love dwindles. No one can constantly live at an emotionally feverish high. When those first feelings diminish, moments will come when emotional satisfaction in the relationship seems relatively low. Negative feelings may poison the atmosphere. At these times, We must exercise the principle of acting love. With the passing og time and by exercising the principles of love, young love can mature into a more genuine love that binds hearts and lives together—counteracting negative feelings.